Between spankings, bondage and sexual play, it’s easily forgotten that there are other techniques to play with someone. Humiliation, although it might sound scary to anyone starting out in the kinky lifestyle, is a favored tool not only Doms resort to. Humiliation play can come in many variations. Turning a person into a furniture slave is one of these possibilities. For some it can be a fetish, whether they are on the giving or receiving end, for others it can be an expansion of their punishment and scene repertoire. Even if it’s not something you’ve really considered so far, because it isn’t exactly high on your kinky to-do list, it’s worth looking into. Kinksters more interested in pet play for example can incorporate furniture slavery by getting their partner saddled up and then having them pose as a rocking horse. Clearly, it’s not as boring as it may possibly sound like to the average beginner.
Just like every kink and scene that exists, there are certain points you should be aware of as the Dominant part. Even if you aren’t, you should also recognize warning signs and possible issues to communicate them to your partner. In the following are the main and most important points to be aware of before, during and after a scene:
How Durable Is Your Furniture Today?
There are good days and bad days. Everyone has them. When you’re planning on using your furniture slave, always make sure to check how they’re feeling physically and psychologically. Should they be feeling under the weather or weary from a very stressful day, it isn’t benefical to either of you if you try and have them act as a footstool for the remainder of the evening. As members from the best fetish dating sites will tell you from having reviewed their own experiences, you have to check on a few things before starting the actual scene. You can check the comparison of the top fetish dating sites and read their reviews to make a choice.
For starters, food and hydration are important basics your furniture slave needs to keep them from fainting. As a slave, it’s you’re responsibility to make sure you’re taking care of yourself, unless you’ve negotiated accordingly with your Master. Additionally, you need to be aware of any health issues in the past and the present, so that you can act accordignly. If your slave is diabetic, sugar and insulin levels are just as relevant as nourishment. Bones that have been broken before aren’t as strong as an unbroken bone. This means that if your slave has broken their ankle, or even just sprained it not too long ago, you shouldn’t place too much strain on it.
This also means not insisting on a scene you’ve already planned. Yes, it’s disappointing to see your plans ruined, but it’s even worse seeing your partner lose trust in you and worse.
The Right Positioning
If you’ve ever woken up in the middle of the night because you couldn’t feel your arm anymore, then you know that some positions aren’t that great to hold for a longer period of time. Should you feel unsure about what works, you can also ask around on your fetish dating site communities for the best positions for your furniture slave. Generally, kneeling and dog positions are preferred by the majority, and they are usually the easiest positions to keep for a longer period. A lot of factors come to play when picking the position and deciding how long it should be held. Placing a light tabletop on your slave or attaching a hands-free serving tray to her nipples can shorten her durability.
A lot of Dominants advise you to test these things out yourself to get a better feel for what your slave is going through. It’s not a necessity, but a helpful tip. Another way of testing the waters is to review a scene after you’re done with aftercare. That way, the feelings and sensations are still fresh in your slave’s mind and you can ask them some questions. Talking after a scene about what happened is a great way to improve on future play and give you a better feel for each other. If you take the position of the slave and want to give feedback (or are asked for it), remember to be constructive.
Scratches on the Surface
Of course your furniture is trained to be completely still. But even the best furniture slaves only have so much endurance until they’re put under strain. For you as an owner, it’s important to recognize when to release them from their task. Besides having safe words and gestures, you should take notice of the early signs of strain. On the opposite side, a slave should know when to call quits and not feel ashamed of it. You aren’t disappointing your Master. If they put their own wishes over your well-being, you should consider it a warning sign.
When a furniture slave starts becoming restless, like trying to shift their position or clenching their hands, then you might want to check if any of their body parts are cold or have fallen asleep. You want them to be uncomfortable of course, that’s part of the whole point, but it should all be in a bearable range for them. It’s not necessary to break off the entire scene as soon as your slave starts waning. Simply switch them into an entirely different position, or have them fetch you something. Change it up a bit to give them some reprieve and then return
Giving the Right Treatments
Just like real furniture, your furniture slave needs treatment to assure that they keep their good condition. Like almost any other scene, live furniture plays need aftercare. There’s a lot of discussion about when aftercare is needed, but alone in the interest of avoiding a drop, aftercare should be practiced.
A drop can occur in both the Master and the slave, though how to deal with it is more commonly known and talked about on forums of the best fetish dating sites among slaves and submissives. You can compare it to a hangover, though one with emotional side effects. Drops are often referred to as a short depression after an intense scene and they usually occur the next day. What both parties need is reassurance and, in the best case, physical presence of the partner. If this isn’t possible, then the partner should at least be available for a talk on the phone.
Besides dealing with a drop, aftercare should also include some treatment of any physical results from the scene. Bruises should receive some cooling salve, and long term and instense strain on the slave’s muscles should be relieved with a massage or a relaxing bath. If you’re just starting out, it’s very likely that your slave will be sore. Some don’t mind it and are happy to still feel some remainder from the scene, others might need full movability the next day and that should be respected.
Not only you benefit from offering your furniture slave the right treatment. With the right care and attention, they will take great joy in serving you. In turn, one of the greatest rewards a Dominant can experience is a submissive who takes pleasure in their service and their adoration.